APPtitude Tip #1: Do Not Personalize Anything...EVER

APPtitude Tip #1: Do Not Personalize Anything...EVER

If you have a thin skin, use hookup and dating apps at your own peril. At times, despite (and possibly because of) your open-heartedness, you will be scratched and clawed — possibly even emotionally mangled.

When we text strangers, so much can be misconstrued and lost in translation. Expect rejection, ridicule and ghosting from time to time. And never forget, you are dealing with the general public. (Ever been to a big box store on Black Friday? ‘Nuf said.) There are a lot of unconscious people in the world and attractions can go south quickly.

In the Trump era, where bullying and harassment have sadly become a staple of the American landscape, prepare yourself for the worst of humanity to rise up like a Whack-a-Mole and under no circumstance personalize the ugliness and mean-spiritedness of those who hate. Their karma will be their own reward, not yours. Haters will project their own shadows onto you. Not only don’t these men have a clue as to how wonderful you are, they most likely lack the capacity to even ask the right questions to find out.

Over time, your radar will improve and you will learn to avoid negative people like STDs. Your capacity for rejection will also increase as you reach the glorious safe haven of indifference and equanimity that I affectionately call The Fuck It Stage. (Welcome, we’ve been expecting you.)

RECOMMENDATION: Block mean people and MOVE ON!

CAVEAT: If negative feedback from others is consistent, remember, YOU are the common denominator. It’s time to look in the mirror, eat your humble pie, get some emotional guidance, and get back on the horse. Also, if you’re being unkind, remember, you get what you give. Karma becomes an even bigger ass kicker as we grow as spiritual beings.

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