APPtitude Tip #4: Never, Ever Assume Two People Are Using an App for the Same Reason at the Same Moment

APPtitude Tip #4: Never, Ever Assume Two People Are Using an App for the Same Reason at the Same Moment

Just because you are on the hunt for a relationship, don’t assume others care the first thing about intimacy and want more than a BJ.

Just because you are looking for fun with slings and restraints, don't assume others can handle even gentle tickling.

Just because you want passionate connected sex, don't assume others even want to see your face when you enter their bedroom.

Like most people, you probably use apps for different reasons at different times — sometimes with a sense of urgent hunger, sometimes for playful flirting when waiting for an Uber. Don’t forget that other people are exactly the same. Timing is everything when texting. Energies ebb and flow. It’s possible that you and the object of your affections may just be out of sync at any given moment.

Since desires often can be fleeting and homeostasis is an illusion, avoid prematurely pigeonholing people based on one encounter. It always helps to ask all prospects what they’re looking for in the moment.

WARNING: Always remember that some monogamous users may be looking to you strictly for the dopamine hit that comes from your sexting and woofs. Such people may have zero intention to ever meet. They are there to flirt and maybe rub one out. If sexting doesn’t float your boat, and you want real physical contact, avoid getting strung along. Cut bait.

RECOMMENDATION: Always disclose and ask users what they desire in this particular moment. If out of sync, perhaps revisit when hormones stop raging to reassess compatibility.

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