APPtitude Tip #6: Never Forget You Are Interacting with the General Public
APPtitude Tip #6: Never Forget You Are Interacting with the General Public
App companies don’t discriminate when it comes to users. They cater to the general public, and, while that may sound wonderfully egalitarian, it does pose a filtering problem for many of us because no one has been prescreened. If you walked into say a county fair, how many of the people there would you actually resonate with as a potential friend or lover? It’s like finding a golden ticket.
If using dating apps creates feelings of isolation, rejection, and disconnection, don’t be surprised. Never forget that out of the hundreds of random strangers you swipe through, you will be incredibly lucky to find resonance with even a few.
Humans are a complicated and diversified bunch, each with unique tastes and proclivities. It takes time to find our people. And, while identifying as straight, bi or gay is often a necessary starting point for finding sex and relationships, it is far too general to be a good common denominator for finding meaningful connections. It’s like expecting to find lasting friendships from people who enjoy eating.
RECOMMENDATION: Given the broad pool of people apps attract, it’s best not to look to apps to satisfy all social needs, nor to think that all the people you will ultimately resonate are even using dating apps. Delete apps occasionally and meet people in the real world.
IMPORTANT: If you are receiving little attention and consistent rejection, consider abandoning dating apps altogether, especially if they are damaging your self-esteem. There are so many amazing people in this world who never touch dating apps. Before returning to them, learn to understand your blind spots, unique challenges, and ways to better showcase yourself and your desires to the world. You may have a fear of intimacy or other obstacles keeping you from getting your desires met. There are coaches in the world like me who can help you navigate this virtual world successfully.
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